Slut

Am I a slut?

Yes, according to Rush Limbaugh, who wants me to video tape myself having sex so he can watch since, as he sees it, he pays for my birth control.

Yes, according to a friend in high school who, after I (while crying and upset) told her I had lost my virginity and asked if I was a slut, looked up the definition in the dictionary and told me I was.

Yes, according to the Internet, as I found out yesterday.

Guess what, guys, if you call Miley Cyrus a slut, you call me a slut. I may not have done it on a stage while being televised, but I have danced like her—not as well as her, but like her. Shaking, thrusting, touching, grinding. If you are going to call a twenty-year-old girl a whore, or classless, or disgusting, or pathetic; then what are you going to call a forty-one-year-old woman?

I had one night stands. I had sex just for the pleasure of it…and for even lesser reasons. I cheated in a relationship. I had unprotected sex. I’ve used birth control. I had a fuck buddy. I had sex while drunk. Some would consider me a slut now since I regularly have sex with someone to whom I am not legally married–or because I have sex at all. I am or have been a slut by many definitions (although I do prefer this one:  a saucy girl).

I asked, in response to a comment on Facebook, “And what exactly is wrong with going through a slutty phase?” I did not receive an answer. I don’t think there is one, besides, “Nothing.”

I am a sexual being. Miley Cyrus is a sexual being. You are a sexual being. I am sorry if we don’t show it in the same way you do. Well, actually, I’m not sorry. If you don’t like how someone is expressing their sexuality, then don’t watch/read/listen to/have sex with them. Don’t slut shame us. Because, honestly, it won’t work. I don’t think that acknowledging or expressing our sexuality is shameful. If you think it is, fuck you (not literally; I’m currently monogamous).

So let’s stop slut shaming a young woman–let’s stop slut shaming all women–and start real shaming the government of Syria.

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